There will be more homosexuals.
I wear makeup regardless of whether people look at me or not. And anyway, what does cosmetics have to do with it *(They pay attention to naked lovers! verified!
When and how) depends mainly on your mood, if you are positive, walk proudly and blah blah blah, then they will notice this way and that, but if you are all in yourself and have not turned into a gray mass for a long time, then there is no need for an answer)
The smell of aromatic perfume or clothes (tasteful, stylish).
do you want someone to brag to you here?
This happens almost every day, or every day. But I don’t really like this kind of attention, because decent young people don’t often approach or give compliments, usually they just imagine people driving up in expensive cars, or random guys passing by, sometimes there are some kind of “freaks” ", or guys who are ready to marry off their children. Respectable ones only offer to meet people in cafes or restaurants, and even then they all pretend to be peacocks. Well, yes, they pay attention. But I have a negative attitude towards this, I don’t like such views and their presumptive thoughts. I won’t explain where I got the following information from, but here’s an example: A girl is walking and a guy walks by thinking about her - oh, I’d like her.... .this negative thought thrown at her deforms the biofield. It acts like an evil eye. After a few times like this, a girl may have problems in the female part, due to the negative information embedded in the biofield. Therefore, it’s better to let the people I know give compliments, which is what dubious individuals end up with on the street.Foreigners often ask for help finding their way to some hotel or store in the old town of Riga.. Not those who offer an excuse to have sex with their eyes, but normal people who came here to relax and got lost in the old woman. Because Education in our country is suffering, and no one really knows English, German, or Spanish - I’m paying a minute of attention to these people..
Have you ever noticed how human attention works? At every second of time we are looking for something that we can cling to with our eyes or thoughts. And we try to ignore unimportant things (if we also focused our attention on them, we would go crazy).
The same thing happens with girls. True, unlike things, their attention is always directed to men (although they don’t show it). This process is ongoing.
How to attract a girl's attention? Obviously, you need to become the kind of guy who will stand out from the crowd.
But now we’ll talk.
Social proof
Or in other words, proof of your relevance to others. When everyone seeks your attention, listens to what you say, laughs at your jokes and considers you the life of the party, then your social proof is considered high.
The same thing happens when you simply actively communicate with everyone, your voice is loud enough, and any dialogues in the company always take place with your participation.
This way you stand out from other guys. As a result, it becomes easier to attract a girl's attention.
Surely, you noticed such guys and remembered in their behavior the signs that I just described. Your task is to try to behave the same way as them.
Of course, if you have always been by nature Very If you are a shy person and were afraid not only to dominate, but even just to take part in a conversation, then such a role will be too uncomfortable for you.
To be different from everyone else
There is another trick when you behave in exactly the opposite way, unlike most of your company.
If everyone is laughing loudly, then you can make your face look like a brick. And vice versa. The main thing is that you do this very confidently, and not remain silent just because you are afraid to say something (the difference between the first and second is easy to feel by looking at your facial expression).
If everyone talks a lot, then you just listen, occasionally inserting interesting phrases, jokes and ironic remarks.
Flirting and humor
While other fans are trying to be too polite, ingratiating, boring stories and other banalities, you can stand out from them.
How to do this?
It is enough to use flirting and humor instead of banal communication (we are talking about both meeting a new girl and communicating with someone you already know).
Flirting affects her emotional part, directing her thoughts in the direction we need. Translated from English, flirting is “love game.” You may have already seen examples of such communication, when at first glance a guy and a girl are discussing some banalities. And often there is little logic in the conversation. But if you take a closer look, they discuss these platitudes in a playful voice. And it’s clear that the girl is interested in this.
Now let's talk about why humor is needed and how to attract a girl's attention with the help of jokes.
For just a guy who considers the female sex to be gentle, kind creatures, teasing a girl is a sign of bad taste. And not only simple things - most men are afraid to do this, because... They think she will be offended and leave.
But if you have long realized that completely logical moral standards have not worked with girls for a long time, then why not try using jokes when communicating with girls?
Banter causes strong emotional outbursts and shows you as a sexually attractive male who is not afraid to challenge her, and is successful with the opposite sex (if he boldly jokes about her).
And the more beautiful girl, the more boldly you can make these jokes. The exception is modest or simply pretty girls.
Try using teasing with a dozen girls, and you will see how much more they “get on you”.
How to attract the attention of a girl you know?
Both of the above methods are suitable for attracting the attention of both strangers and familiar girls.
However, if your goal is an old friend, a classmate, or just a girl you know, then this method is perfect. Its essence is that you change your image to the complete opposite.
If you were serious until now, now start joking more often. If you were polite, now you can become a little arrogant, and sometimes even slightly aggressive.
But there is one danger: a girl can easily “see through” you if, despite such a change in image, you continue to try to communicate with her too often, catch her eye, or return to your previous behavior in unusual situations.
If until today you tried to contact her often and always listened carefully to what exactly she said, then now become sharply cold, do not pay attention to her when she says something, and respond more indifferently to her words. This technique is called “further” (from the “closer-further” technique), when you alternate interested and disinterested behavior.
Each of the above techniques can be compared in its effect to a fat wallet and a pumped-up body combined. However, even if a girl has a choice between a rich jock and a guy who knows how to evoke emotions, the choice will be made in favor of emotions. In general, as always...
If female attractiveness were determined by strength, will
and intelligence, then the most attractive would be men.
Author unknown
I spent a lot of time studying the issue of attracting women's attention. And I am happy to present to your attention the 8 most effective ways to attract attention and get to know a girl you happen to meet:
1. Humor.
2. Intrigue her, arouse curiosity.
3. Act in an unexpected or unusual way in a typical situation, break the patterns.
4. Play a role.
5. Satisfy her feeling of uniqueness and uniqueness.
6. Pretend that you already know her.
7. Show concern for her.
8. “Guess” a fact from her life.
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1. Humor |
- Girl, aren’t your legs tired?
- No, what?
- The thing is that you can’t get out of my head all the time.
Or:
- Girl, what size shoes do you have?
(- Why do you need it?)
(- The fact is that I recently found a glass slipper and am now looking for its owner.)
- 35.
- And I’m 45. Well, we met.
Such phrases for starting a dialogue give incredible results, but, above all, with girls who are in a good mood and are inclined to communicate. Sometimes girls are simply not able to think in a humorous way - then you need to resort to using other methods. Read about the mood you should be in to say funny things in the article "". This also includes the following phrases:
- Girl, do you know what is good about Tefal cookware? Because it can hit someone on the head who is very tired of it, and since you don’t have this valuable utensils now, I decided to find out your name and flirt a little.
- Why are you looking at me as if your husband was away on a business trip?
- Girl, your back is white... Don’t worry, it’s still not visible under your jacket.
- I noticed that you noticed me, and I would like to notice that I noticed you too.
- You know, I have absolutely no idea what I should say so that we can get to know each other, but let’s better imagine that I’ve already said all this.
- Girl, I'm from the employment service. Can I keep you busy?
Among the fun methods, one cannot help but recall the so-called “Conveyor of Greetings” that I loved several years ago. What is its essence? Regardless of which direction the girl is going, catch up with her and walk parallel to her a couple of tens of meters. Then turn your head in her direction, smile sincerely and say “Hello!” Next, whatever her answer, walk with her silently for another couple of tens of meters. And turn your head again, smile again and say “Hello!” Do this several times until she smiles or becomes indignant. Until she completely turns her attention to you, continue to pursue your persistent, friendly line. When she mistakes you for a comedian, a crazy person, or the main irritant of the day, she will most likely try to find out if you know any other words besides the word "hello." To this, as always, smiling and radiating composure, answer: “Good afternoon!” Thanks to this method, you will make nine out of ten girls smile. And this is already a lot.
It's clear that most guys are looking for some magical, guaranteed success approach. As a rule, these are guys who have no experience in street dating, but in my seminars I give them basic outlines so that they always find something to say. Here is one of best options start dating:
- I want to ask you an unusual question. Have you ever practiced meditation?
Apparently, the phrase “unusual question” certainly arouses female curiosity, and the use of such “vague” words, which few people understand, like “meditation” inspires the girl to find her own interpretations. In our country, where most women are single and busy studying something "spiritual" such as yoga, herbal medicine, card fortune telling or coffee, the chances of a woman being intrigued and impressed by the insight and sensuality of the man asking this question are increase several times. Here's an equally effective phrase:
- Do you want me to tell you something that no one has ever told you?..
Of course, after this you need to say something that will be a complete surprise to her. This could also be a monologue about her “second” personality, hiding behind the mask of a bitch, which I gave in the article ““. This could be noting something very unusual and curious about her appearance or behavior, for example: “You are the most creative person I have ever met. Do you know that you have limitless talent? That's for sure, because I see you.” . It could also be some interesting philosophical thought, for example: “I read somewhere that about 80% of people in the world give up: they stop growing, stop dreaming and by the age of 22 they calm down. Then they become eye doctors (teachers, lawyers and etc. to choose from) so that their mothers feel good,” or with no less success: “I recently heard that two people start to get bored not when they are physically in one place for a long time. They get bored if they are far from each other. from a friend mentally and spiritually. Do you agree with this statement?"
I will not hide that arousing female curiosity is my favorite way to make acquaintances. But it requires the ability to maintain a conversation in the same direction in which you started it. This is critical in this method. If, for example, you uttered the phrase: “Girl, have you ever seen a flower called Edelweiss?”, you can be sure that you will capture the attention of a stranger, but after that it is highly advisable to tell her something about this flower. This will interest her even more. And if you also read Eduard Asadov’s poem “Edelweiss” by heart, then consider that you have bought a ticket for a flight to her heart.
The fact that you approached an unfamiliar girl on the street in itself can be considered extraordinary behavior, since very few men can boast of skills in this art. And your unusual behavior can completely switch her attention to you. Even this seemingly simple approach contains a pattern break:
- Young woman! (look closely at her legs) Is it true what image makers say that girls wearing short skirts should have a left leg (look at her left leg) one and a half times shorter than her boyfriend’s right leg (look at her right leg)?
This includes the “Souvenir” method, which is incredibly effective. A simple, cheerful item is given - a cute keychain, flower, postcard, simple drawing, etc. The souvenir is given under a pretext or “just because”. Of course, flowers lead to the highest efficiency, so this method is ideal for approaching a girl on the street for the first time in your life. After the words “This is for you,” I recommend the phrase: “I really wanted to show this rose how beautiful you are...”
Any non-standard behavior attracts attention. But remember, I told you that if you want to succeed, your originality must be different for the better. Therefore, think at your leisure what you can do that in a positive way will make you stand out from the crowd, which will attract the attention of beautiful strangers. Here are the things I did:
The point is that you are pretending to be someone you are not, but who has a good chance of attracting a girl's attention. For example, for a psychologist, journalist, astrologer, traveler, poet, perfumer, stuntman, traveler, etc., etc. That is, for a person who professionally deals with those things that are terribly interesting to women. These things primarily include: interpersonal relationships, spiritual and mysterious hobbies, adventure, fashion and art.
I remember a couple of years ago I would approach girls on the street and say the following:
- Girl, could you help me... The fact is that I am writing a dissertation on the culture of the ancient Incas. So, in the magazine "National Geographic" I read that this people have one mystery that scientists still have not been able to guess...
Next, I handed her a notebook in which the following lines were written:
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Yet more beautiful than the face of your god. |
I will be happy to translate it for you. In Russian it goes something like this: “Even more beautiful than the face of your god. Even more evil than the forked tongue of a demon. Dead people eat this all the time. The living who eat this slowly die.” The most popular options: time, love, life. However, none of them fit exactly. What do you think?..
The girls began to come up with their own options, asking me about what I was doing. They were truly intrigued by communication with a person who studies the ancient Incas. In fact, all my knowledge about the ancient Incas was limited to one article. However, this article did not say anything about this mystery. This riddle was taken from my old notebook. English language and I really don’t know the answer to it. But it doesn't matter. The main thing is that I aroused women's curiosity and got used to the role of a person who was obviously interesting to them.
The most popular question that my students ask me about this method is: “How to behave later when you start dating a girl?” If you have serious plans for her, then the best recipe will literally admit to her at the first meetings: “Honestly, I’m not doing at all what I told you about. But I wanted to get to know you so much that I did this to interest you and see you again.” I assure you that your relationship will not suffer from this.
This method consists primarily of compliments. Starting an acquaintance with compliments is very effective if they are non-trivial, that is, if the girl does not hear them day after day. Admiring her skin, neck, hands is quite suitable. You can learn more about the art of complimenting in the article “Compliments”. I also often used all sorts of variations of this method. Example:
- Most people watch the World Cup because it happens only once every four years. But I would rather talk to you, because the chance to meet a woman like you comes once in a lifetime.
A classic example of this method of dating is the “Compliment Conveyor” by the famous American expert in the field of dating and seduction, Ross Jeffries. Many people underestimate this method, but during testing it showed amazing effectiveness. So what is it? Pick a girl, then walk up to her side, pick something about her that you can sincerely praise, and say:
-You have very beautiful hands.
- Thank you.
- I like your hat.
- Thank you.
- And the color of your nails is very attractive.
- Thank you.
- Actually, if you think about it, I like everything about you.
- ...(smile)
- My name is Victor (Gennady, Alexey, Andrey). What name are you called, a brilliant example of natural perfection?
- ...(laughter)
- And I especially like your laughter. I would be happy to put it in my alarm clock and wake up to it every morning.
- ...(laughter)
- And in general, it seems to me that you are very good taste. Do you know why? Because you laugh at my jokes.
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6. Pretend you already know her |
One of the best ways Dating according to this rule is a situation when a man genuinely recognizes his old acquaintance in a girl passing by. Of course, you don’t need to know it at all to do this. Phrases such as “Hey, we're feeling lucky today...” or “Hey, where have you been?” unwittingly involve the girl in conversation. This method will bring the best results if you really sincerely believe that you know her, for example, by associating her with someone similar to her. Then the acquaintance will take place simply because it does not look like an acquaintance at all, but like a conversation between old friends. You can call the girl by any name, and then tell in detail about the person with whom you confused her. Some girls start playing along - it's most interesting with them.
For dessert, I will offer you a dating method that, if you have at least some acting talent, will allow you to make nine out of ten girls laugh. And a woman's laughter is more than half the success. Just go up to the beauty you like, look closely into her eyes and, expressing genuine curiosity, literally say the following: “I know that this sounds exactly like the most banal phrase for dating, but I’m really sure that I’m meeting you somewhere.” saw". Then ask what school she went to, compare it with your school number. Ask with interest where she went on vacation last summer. In general, anything to connect her to going through possible places in her head where you could meet. Then sharply depict a sudden insight, accompanied by an exclamation: “Oh! That’s it! I remembered!.. Recently I read some book about angels. And you were depicted on its cover.” I assure you that if you say this phrase as SINCERELY as possible, she will at least smile. Then look at her and say: “Now that you smiled, I am finally convinced that you are an angel. Tell me, does it hurt to fall from Olympus?” Then finish her off with your intention to record her laughter on your alarm clock, as Ross Jeffries suggested.
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7. Show concern for her. |
Let me give you an example from life. A few years ago, my friend and I were skipping lectures at the institute. Two pretty girls, about three years older than us, came out of a neighboring institute. We line up behind them and choose a way to meet them. The first thing that came to my mind was: “Girls, are you off to the metro?” My friend pointed out that they were carrying heavy packages, and therefore it would be better to offer to help carry them. And so, when we caught up with them, I said: “Girls, are you on the way to the metro, or do you need help with the bags?” The conversation began with laughter, which means half the battle was done.
Therefore, use every opportunity to help the girl cope with the difficulties of life. And then the extent of her gratitude will be limitless within the limits of the possible. You can read more about this in the article “Gentlemanship”. But you need to understand that in order to be able to meet girls, showing concern for them, you need to always be on the alert, always remember your readiness for acquaintance and never, never, never miss the gifts of fate.
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8. “Guess” a fact from her life. |
- Do you have a cat?
And if, for example, a girl has a keychain attached to her bag, which is a figurine of some cute animal, then you can approach it like this:
- Girl, do you have plush toys at home? Me too! Let's introduce them.
Of course, in this method it is desirable to hit the bull's eye. Although, if you don’t guess right, it doesn’t matter either. Remember the fourth point of the success formula: “Change your behavior flexibly until you achieve your desired goal.” If it didn't work out that way, try another way. Talk to her about how great it is to have a cat or a plush toy at home, etc.
Admire a man. Admire a woman. When and how does this happen? What influences this?
Not long ago I came across a post on the Internet that helped me find the right word my thoughts on the topic of relationships, as well as what “ignites” me in a relationship with a man, besides my desire to be with him.
Be delighted! - that's the word.
Admire a man. Admire a woman.
When and how does this happen? What influences this? I understood (more precisely than before) when I read the word “admire” and thought that I also really wanted to admire my man.
Maybe not constantly (because this is simply impossible, and not necessary), but regularly. Periodically.
And I began to think, what is it about men that “ignites” me and causes delight? Moreover, delight is not the kind that needs to be specially caught and realized. And one that occurs at the level of the subcortex (the subconscious and its “codes”, based on which one person perceives another as attractive or not attractive).
AND I found this “incendiary” starting to remember the moments in which I reacted to men (and different ones, and this is important in order to understand the codes of my subconscious, and not my reaction to a specific person), precisely as representatives of the male sex + attracting me in a special way... Like a man .
It is clear that it is only my subcortex that “works” in such a way that each person will have their own symptoms. However, if you manage to remember and understand them,you can “tune in” to each other, well, if you have a desire to maintain the fire of love in your relationship .
I was surprised to discover that one of the signs to which I had previously reacted as important had lost its power of influence for me. Once upon a time, from my youth and then after another twelve years, I really responded to those men who knew how to talk: smart, interesting, meaningful. ANow it turns out that conversations and conversations are no longer included in the top three detected signs, to which I immediately respond from within. Although it is undeniable that smart man It is much more pleasant to communicate than with someone who is not very smart.
Here signs and characteristics of male behavior, they developed historically, in early childhood, and have remained to this day, taking into account the polishing by time = experience, which I “turn on” in relation to a man:
* active - a man who does something (and generally acts, and does not passively recline on the sofa) immediately becomes pleasant to me, even if he simply hammers a nail into the wall. I feel like a woman in his presence and am ready to be proud of him, even if the nail is driven in the wrong place and not very evenly according to the man himself,
* decisive - here it’s about taking responsibility both for your words and actions, and for two people (yourself and your woman); I generally like it when they tell me: “let’s go there.” The main thing is that this is said and done confidently, so that the man’s behavior as a leader does not raise doubts, even if in the end we don’t quite get there; At such moments, I also immediately “light up” and just physically feel that there is a man next to me,
* risky - not necessarily on a large scale. For example, a man sat down to go go-karting in a recreation park and immediately became such a man-man in my eyes. Without irony, honestly.
The examples given are very conditional to make it clear that special feats are often not required from men. Getting into the area of influence is important, even with something completely insignificant in terms of scope of implementation. The area of self-expression in a woman’s eyes is important.
In the same way, what is described can be attributed to those qualities (signs) that a man “turns on” in relation to the manifestations of the feminine in a woman. I think that one of them will probably be common to all men if they are truly in love with their woman: I want to admire the woman I love... So that there is a feeling that you can’t see enough of it.
Therefore, my friends, the question is not at all how something looks in the eyes of the public, but what of the qualities and manifestations of men (for women) and women (for men)They evoke in you a feeling of admiration or a desire to admire.
Personally, I clearly formulated those, the manifestation of which makes me delighted that “here he is, a man, nearby, real.”
And you can ask your “other half” about yours something like this: tell me, when do you “turn on” a woman (man) and who would you exactly turn your attention to? Or - when we met, what did I do to attract your attention?
I highly recommend asking and reproducing in your behavior the signs indicated by your partner, if you want,so that life is not only interesting, but also incendiary and with a feeling of admiration, love and inspiration.
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